I have been asked why I didn't use a pen name. I guess I never really thought to use one. I wanted people to know that I, Amy Heileman Ben-Kiki wrote a book. Whether people like it or not, think it's crap or love it, it's my work and I'm proud of it. I have been called so many other things my entire life, I finally have something that is mine and I wanted MY name on it!
I grew up being the youngest of four. This meant that 99% of the time I was NOT Amy. I was called all of my sister's names or I was simply so and so's sister. After that, when I started dating my husband, I then became Jay's girlfriend/wife. I get it, he holds a higher rank in our jobs and he's a bigger presence than I am, and that's ok, because my husband is amazing and I'm proud to be his wife.
When I had my kids, I then became Chase and Cooper's mom (my favorite name so far.) At their school where my mother-in-law teaches I am Joyce's daughter-in-law. I wouldn't give up any of those names, but for once I just wanted to be known as me.
I guess I feel like I have had so many names my whole life, that I really didn't want to add another. I just simply wanted people to know me by my name. My REAL name. Just for a moment, I wanted to be known as Amy Heileman Ben-Kiki!
And now I'll happily go back to being so and so's sister, Jay's wife, Chase and Cooper 's mom, Joyce's daughter-in-law, and so on...